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What is marriage? What is the significance of marriage?

26 Jan

Marriage is accepted as a custom in all cultures, religions, and countries. There are different rituals in different cultures. In different religions, with different ceremonies, it is treated as sacred. In most countries, it is a socially accepted custom with regulations. When time goes on, when individualism increases, it is a question, at least for some people- why marriage? Why it is needed- what is the significance?  Why not live together…what is the difference?

Do we need to own a house to live? It is not that necessary. People can live in streets, shelters, or rental places. But owning a house provides a sense of belonging, security and self esteem for a person. It gives a structure and shape in the community and regions. When we look marriage in the same way like owning a house, is that necessary? Not really- two individuals can live together without a marriage too. Why to marry? Marriage is commitment and acceptance to each other and it becomes a symbol of respect towards each person and the love they share. It provides a proof in the society that they are committed to each other. Marriage creates the structure of family in communities, religions and whole society we live in.

Sometimes people lose faith in marriage seeing the different things in day to day life. Making a marriage successful needs lot of effort. How can we make a house a ‘Home’? When we like everything about that house and accept what it is, we start to like and love that house. We add furniture and features according to our interests. We maintain and repair whenever it is needed. We do different stuff to make it our ‘Home’. Just like that, lot of effort is needed to make a marriage successful. Love, mutual respect, forgiveness and understanding are needed constantly. Then only that relationship will be the ‘home’ for individuals. Creating that ‘home’ is in the hands of individuals. Then only it will be a long lasting relation.

‘Marriage’ is not the problem in relationships and marriages when they fall apart. ‘Marriage’ is significant for individuals as well as society.

 

What I have to give to my kids?

18 Dec

Parenting is a learning process for most people. Just like each person is unique, each situation may be unique too. Parents always want their kids to excel in wherever they are. They are looking for ways to provide the best for their kids. Most of the time, they give whatever the kid wants. Sometimes it is challenging when there is a disappointment from any side. As a parent, what we have to give to our kids? Read the rest of this entry »

 
 

You see when you believe:

25 Aug

My best friend said this- ‘You see when you believe; it should not be- you believe when you see …as always’. Maybe that can be romantic vs practical. Usually that is what people do- they believe only when they see things. But if you believe, you will see things. Read the rest of this entry »

 
 

How to live with sensitivity:

13 Jul

One of my readers told me to write about ‘advice on how not to be sensitive’. This article or the previous article is not about ‘how not to be sensitive’, because, I will not tell anyone that being sensitive is something wrong or to be changed.  In the first article, I was telling it is a good trait in you. In this article, what I am saying is how to live with your sensitivity. Read the rest of this entry »

 
 

Importance of communicating feelings in marriage:

18 Jun

Marriage is the union of two identities. People live in their way for many years with their beliefs and mannerisms. With marriage they choose to share that life of theirs. Clashes are common- but to make it in a harmony- communication is important in a marriage. It is the maintenance part of the marriage. It is important to make sure that, feelings are communicated. Read the rest of this entry »

 
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How to find intention of our life:

22 May

Intention in life is not definite. Sometimes it comes through experiences in life. Sometimes it come through some incidents happened in our life. Sometimes people realize it through hardships in their life.  To perceive that, we need humility and acceptance. Destination or intention in life- you define as you go. Life is a journey. Take a step at a time.

(This is an interesting discussion I had with Abhishek, who is an engineer at Microsoft.) Read the rest of this entry »

 
 

Forgiveness is the essence of love:

19 Apr

Forgiveness is the essence of love, because love doesn’t exist where there is no forgiveness. Without forgiveness, love is dead.

Most of the time, forgiveness is looked as if it is a kind of weakness. But actually, a person needs lot of strength to forgive someone. It is brave to forgive someone wronged us. It requires lot of self esteem to do that. In a way it is sacrifice. It is kind of putting away our ‘self’ and ego. But ultimately, the winner is the one who forgives. Read the rest of this entry »

 
 

When bad things or sufferings come upon you:

25 Mar

Most of us are people who go through difficult situations in life. Sometimes things happen so unexpectedly. We think of it bad…or why these sufferings only for me? Then life seems so difficult. We may not be ready to accept that. It may take long time to recover from those hurtful feelings. Is there a better way to look when bad things or sufferings come upon you? Read the rest of this entry »

 
 

Small things in Life

01 Feb

This story is from a forward email. It is supposed to be from Lisa Beamer. It shows the importance of small things in our life.

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I had a very special teacher in high school many years ago whose husband died suddenly of a heart attack. About a week after his death, she shared some of her insight with a classroom of students.  As the late afternoon sunlight came streaming in through the classroom windows and the class was nearly over, she moved a few things aside on the edge of her desk and sat down there. Read the rest of this entry »

 

How to create intimacy in relations?

17 Dec

Intimacy or attachment is a rare gift to treasure. Love without intimacy is possible? Yes. There will be lot of people in marriage who love each other, but there is no intimacy at all. There will be parent child relation, but no intimacy at all. There are siblings who have love, but no intimacy. What is intimacy and how it is important in a fulfilling relationship? Read the rest of this entry »

 
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How to manage a loss? – A dear one’s death!

06 Sep

One of the hard things in life is death…a dear one’s loss. It is hard to know what to do. If it is an unexpected incident, it will very hard even to digest the fact that they are not in this world any more. These are some tips to manage that loss. Read the rest of this entry »

 
 

“Love your enemy” – who is my enemy?

09 Aug

One of the famous words from Jesus is ‘love your enemy’. But is it possible to love enemies in real life? Who is my enemy?

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Life is a gift

23 Jul

We hear it always that Life is a gift. When difficulties arise, we feel like we want to have an end to our life. Sometimes life seems so boring, and meaningless. So is life really a gift? Read the rest of this entry »

 

Is everyone equal?

22 Jun

Everyone is equal? Why people think they are higher or lower than others? Is rich better than poor? Is white better than black? Are men better than woman? Is there better race, nationality, religion or age? It seems endless.

Sometimes we feel like we are less than someone else in terms of money, position, family and talents etc. Sometimes we get treatment from others like we are lesser than the other. We get discouraged or hurt by these kinds of experiences. But is it true that we all are equal? Read the rest of this entry »

 
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‘Love to live, live to love’ – What is Love?

26 May

We hear everywhere about love. But what is true love?

Love is defined in many ways.

My metaphor about Love is: Read the rest of this entry »

 
 

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